Journey's End
This morning at around 7:30am Dwayne's journey here on earth ended and he began his face to face journey with his Saviour, Lord and Friend, Jesus Christ. God has accomplished His purposes for Dwayne here on earth, but I believe that his influence will continue on for many years. Dwayne was truly a unique and gifted man who was passionate about his family, his ministry and most importantly his relationship with Jesus. He walked faithfully, served lovingly, and finished victoriously.
Whether you knew Dwayne personally, or got to know him through this blog, I know that many of you have been impacted by his words and actions. As part of Dwayne's legacy to his children and me, I plan to print out "Dwayne's Journey" in it's entirety, including the comments. If you have any memories of Dwayne, or if his journal made a change in your life, please feel free to comment. We are so blessed by the love and care sent our way.
Details of Dwayne's Celebration of Life service will be posted here shortly, as will his obituary.
On behalf of Dwayne, this is Janet, signing off.
To God Be The Glory!
posted by DH @ Tuesday, August 16, 2005
119 comments
119 Comments:
Janet, You do not know me, but I want you to know that I am walking beside you in prayer. Now, that Dwayne is gone, I am praying that you will have "peace that will surpass all understanding". In reading your blogs I feel for you in regards to letting your children go to camp. My son was there last week and my other son is there this week. I can't imagine how hard that was for you to let them go. Our family will pray that your children will only grow closer to Christ through this (even though that seems so hard in our human mind).
Lorrie & Lloyd (from FGCC)
Janet, Tyler & Ashlynn,
I am so sorry for your loss, Dwayne sounded like a truly amazing man. I was so challenged by his words of "joy is a choice" and how Dwayne chose joy even in times of trial. I am trying to remember that and apply that to my own life day in and day out.
My heart aches for you as a family and I am praying constantly for you. Janet, may God's comforting and loving arms enclose around you and hold you there as long as you need. May He give you strength as you parent and live life.
Your family has touched my life more than you'll ever know.
Corrie Stoesz
Dear Janet, Ashlynn and Tyler,
I am very sorry to hear of your loss. Though I only met Dwayne once, through this journal Dwayne has left an indellible mark on me. Little did I know when I met Dwayne last Christmas that I was meeting a man of such deep strength and character.
Take comfort in the truth that we know where Dwayne is. He did, indeed, finish victoriously!
You remain in our thoughts and prayers.
The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face shine upon you and be gracious to you; the Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace.
Peter
Dear Janet,
My prayers will continue on,for the children, yourself, Dan and Helen and the lives that were ministered to by Dwayne. May God bless you.
In God we trust,
Adrienne Janzen
I am so sorry for your family's loss. I read this blog in part last evening and shed many tears. Your family is courageous and my thoughts and prayers go out to you all in this difficult time.
Janet,
We just heard your news. You're such a strong woman, Janet. We all admire the way your family has dealt with this tragedy. Although what you've faced has been so difficult, your witness has been strong.
We know Dwayne will be missed more than we can imagine. We are anxious to hear details about the service.
We are all looking forward to seeing you and giving you a hug.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you, Ashlynn and Tyler.
Love,
Your Birks Family
Janet, Ashlynn & Tyler,
Our hearts are broken and we share in your hurt today! Your kids are the same age as ours, and as a family we want to assure you that we will be praying for each of you - that your faith will remain strong and that God will continue to provide the energy you need in the days ahead.
We are thankful for the life Dwayne lived. His legacy of love and ministry will continue. No doubt as Dwayne moved from faith to sight this morning, the words the greeted him were "Well done, my good and faithful servant!"
With all our love and prayers,
Leyton, Brenda, Matthew, Mitchell and Jeffrey Erickson
Janet, Ashlynn, & Tyler,
I am so sorry for your loss. Or should I say "our" loss. Dwayne was an amazing person. He had a huge impact on my life...more than I had ever realized. I was baptized by Dwayne and I could not have imagined anyone else leading me through that part of my life. I will always treasure that. Dwayne had a heart for God and he made that clear by his glowing smile. I will always remember his big, beaming smile, brought out by Christ and his enthusiasm for God. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
Janet/Ashlynn/Tyler,
I am so sad to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you. If you need anything, please don't hesitate to call. I will be in touch in the next while.
Carolyn
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Thank you for sharing your journey with us. Thank you for being a wonderful example of faithfulness in times of trial. Thank you for being an example of what prayer can do for although the healing we were praying so fervently for never took place in the natural, the ability of the family to cope as you did and are doing during this time is nothing but the strength and peace of the Lord. Our prayers for you will not cease with the passing of Dwayne, but we will continue to uphold you and your family in prayer for the days that lie ahead. May the Lord bless and comfort you all.
Eric and Kristin Amundson (Darren's sister and bro.-in-law)
Janet and Family ...
So sorry to hear about Dwayne's passing this morning. Our hearts go out to you ... so much sadness, and yet such hope was given to so many and such profound encouragement to countless lives.
I (Dan) remember the impact a letter Dwayne wrote a year of so ago after a prayer week your church had run had on my own faith. May the letter he wrote then, encourage you now (find it here).
We both cherish every day God gives us all the more.
Dan King and Scott Neufeld
(Cornerstone Church Youth Min.)
Janet, Tyler & Ashlynn,
It has been with tears of love, awe, and a heart of prayer that I have been closely following Dwayne's and your journey from the onset. The courageous words of challenge from both Dwayne and you Janet will be forever in my heart and mind.
My heart also aches for you, your children, and your families. I pray that you will continue to feel God's love and comfort as you face the next few difficult days and weeks. May God send a host of angels to you and your household to comfort you and embrace you in His holiness and love. Reflect often and find joy in knowing that on this day, there is another fantastic party in heaven, congratulating Dwayne on his victorious time on earth. He has indeed finished well.
The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face shine upon you and be gracious to you; the Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace.
Ron Dyck
Dear Janet, Tyler & Ashlynn, Mr & Mrs. Harms, Shauna & the rest of Dwayne's family
Words cannot say what I would like to share with you....Dwayne was an amazing guy even though I am not as close with you guys as way back in Bible School days. We had some great times back then and he was a great friend to me. His life is a testiment to why God is good even when circumstances don't look so good and I am proud to have known him. You guys have been in my prayers and will continue to be in my prayers as you go through this difficult time. I wish I could do more but I know you are surrounded by an incredible church family and friends that will also be there in much more of a physical way. One of the things that was said that impacted me the most when my cousin Kelly died at 18, "He finished his race, all the tasks God asked of him he completed and God called him home to experience his reward early, it is incredibly sad for us but they are not suffering with anything earthly anymore." I hope that helps you in dealing with this tragic loss of a great husband, father, friend, brother and son. We also have the assurance that we will meet again, and what a glorious day that will be!
Crystal (Fehr)Siemens for my entire family.
Dear Janet, Ashlynn & Tyler:
Our prayers are with you as you face this difficult time. We were encouraged by Dwayne in many ways during our time of attending Living Hope. Dwayne's passion for Christ and for the ministry God lead you all to at Living Hope was very evident in the way Dwayne lived his life. We have been following the "journey" that was posted on this blog on a regular basis. Your family's faith has been such an encouragement to us, and an example of strength that only God can provide in the time of great trials. Thank you for the honesty and openness that was revealed in the blog. With our love, support and prayers,
Wayne & Kim Arendt
I did not know Dwayne but he has touched me none the less through this blog.
I know I have taken for granted how fragile life can be. I have been challenged to take joy through the pains of life but none of mine have been physical, Dwayne showed me how to praise God even in the midst of phsical pain.
Dwayne finished well and there is no doubt in my mind that Jesus will embrace him and say "Well done good and faithful servant".
I am challenged to love life more through Dwayne's death, so I would just like to say thank you.
really moved and thinking of your family and offering prayers for you all to know God as your portion.
- i am a 41 year old dad who didnt know Dwayne, but i feel i do now.
- peace
Janet, i have no words to express my sadness at hearing the news. You and the children will be carried on the wings of prayer; of this i am sure.
Years ago, Dwayne saw me in a store with our three small children. They were all crying and i was more than a little frazzled. Dwayne, eyes twinkling, reminded me of the "big picture" in a few short sentences. My heart was encouraged as he left. Later that day, i answered the door to find him with flowers in hand and a card from both of you that spoke of friendship and God's faithfulness.
That is how i will remember Dwayne. More than a follower of Jesus, he had that unique winsomeness that Christ-like people possess. He was able to find joy around every corner and help others to do the same.
Love to you and the children...may the Comforter wrap you in His arms in the coming days.
We are praying for the entire Living Hope Family.
Dear Janet, Tyler & Ashlynn,
Psalm 56:8 says:
"You keep track of all my sorrows, you have collected all my tears in a bottle, you have recorded each one in your book"....
Your tears and all of the tears of everyone who has been so touched by this incredibly bittersweet journey been collected by the God who has now welcomed Dwayne home. You have been so transparent with us as you and Dwayne shared so openly and honestly to us all. Only God in Heaven will truly know how many people were touched by this blog, but, I for one, know that I will not be the same. I have been challenged to embrace my faith and to live it out openly in a more intentional way because of reading this blog. Janet, my prayers will continue for you and Ashlynn and Tyler as you face your own journey in the coming days ahead. May you truly experience God's peace that passes all understanding.
Grace White
Hi Janet, Ashlynn & Tyler,
Please accept our sincere condolences on the loss of your husband and father.
And now, we can only imagine the type of incredible adventure that Dwayne has just begun.
I (Don) am so thankful that Dwayne came to my memory while at work on Monday, and that I was able to pay him one last visit in the hospital. Although uncomfortable, he seemed visibly more relaxed and calm after I assured him that I had completed the task that he had asked me to do, when he had visited me in my office, earlier in July. (Janet, when we meet next, I'd be happy to explain Dwayne's request to me, in greater detail).
Please be assured that as a family, we will continue to support your family in prayer as well as however else we can help.
God bless you and keep you during these times.
Don, Janet, Dori, Michael & Rob Neufeld
Janet,you might not know us, but we(my husband and I) used to teach Tyler sunday school at West Portal. We have been praying for you individually and together with our caregroup. As I sit here with a lump in my throat when I think of you and your children, I have only 1 thing that I try and think of and that is that Dwayne is safe in the arms of Jesus.
Dear Janet, Tyler and Ashlynn,
I want you to know that my prayers have been with you and I will continue to be in my prayers. my heart aches with you in this time of loss and yet I am so glad of the hope we have that Dwayne is now home with the Lord he loved. I want to say Thank you for sharing your family's journey with us. Dwayne's and yours faith is such and encouragement and inspiration and a challenge to me. I pray that you have peace in this time of sorrow and hope for the joy of tomorrow.
Love and Prayers,
Phyllis
Inded, to God be the Glory!
I have been so blessed by this blog. Thank you for you sharing so personally your journey.
Hey, Janet.
We are praying for you as you continue to trust God.
Neysa (Wiens) Penner with Bernard & Ezra
Janet,
Our deepest sympathies to you and Ashlynn and Tyler. While we mourn the loss of Dwayne, heaven is rejoicing at receiving him "home". Our prayer is that God will sustain you through the difficult times and that all the wonderful memories of your husband/dad will remain with you forever.
Perry, Dawna, Derek and Shawn
Janet, Ashlynn & Tyler,
We are SO saddened by the loss of Dwayne. What an incredible man of God! He was always encouraging others in their faith & just in life situations, be it with a hug or his words. The last hug I shared with Dwayne was a couple of weeks ago, and he held me so tight...all i could say is "We love you!". The words seemed so small then, but I hope he knew how much I meant them.
All I can imagine now is him standing in Heaven with that BIG DH grin on his face thinking to himself - "This is SO MUCH BETTER and MORE AMAZING than I could ever have imagined or dreamed.".
We know that God is watching over you, protecting you & hopefully filling your heart with peace.
All of our love,
Janelle, Rodney & Kamryn Loewen
Janet, Tyler, & Ashlynn.
I am so sorry to hear of our loss. Dwayne meant a lot to all of us, and now that he is gone I feel a deep sadness. Dwayne was really like no other, he encouraged so many, and touched a lot of people's lives. It always encouraged me to see how Dwayne was always out to Serve God, and then serve each other. I could sit here all night and talk about the good times I had with Dwayne but i Know you have many other responses to read. I want you to know that I have been praying for your family and am continually doing so. I thank God for the friend he gave me in Dwayne. Dwayne touched my life in a very significant way. I am going to miss Dwayne, but what I thought! One day we will be reunited with not Just Dwayne, but the Lord Jesus Christ. What a thought! Let us rejoice Dwayne is pain free, and has returned home.
Once again my prayers are with you and your family.
your brother in Christ
Kent.
Janet, our hearts grieve with you. Dwayne finished well, he has now received his promotion. God's presence be so ever close to you and the kids as you continue this journey. We love you in the Lord. Bill & Kathy Anderson
Hi Janet and family,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you as you deal with Dwayne's passing. Sorry for your loss...we don't know what you are going through right now. Donna and I were blessed to have known Dwayne as much as we did from the times we were a part of the evening services at Living Hope.
Janet and family, continue to realize that you will be in our prayers and thoughts. May God be near you at this time. Pastor Dwayne will be missed.
In Christ,
Gerry and Donna T
Dear Janet,Tyler and Ashlynn,
This is Simon Wiebe. It is encouraging to hear the strength the Lord is giving you.Dwayne had a tremendous impact on my life. He truly demonstrated how a christian should live. He was a real encoragement to me and I will never forget that unending smile. Thank you for sharing him with me. You are in our prayers.
Janet,
Tears were in my eyes, as I read "Journey's End" title, long before I read your message. I knew Dwayne had left this world behind, and now was rejoicing with his Savior everyone knew he loved so much.
I had passed along your last entry to my pastor at church Sunday night, but we were still praying for his healing. I know it's a sad time for you and your children, and we will continue to pray for you. But, we will celebrate the 'Home Going' of your beloved son/husband/father Dwayne. He's no longer in a body racked with pain, but in the loving arms of a compassionate, loving Father.
I have never 'met' Dwayne or his family, but his presence on this blog has been felt all over the world, as has yours, as you stood in for him during his hospital stay. May God bless you and your family, and bring you the peace you are going to need in the coming days and weeks. And, one day, you'll all meet again! What a glorious day that will be!!
Janet, Ashlynn & Tyler,
I am very sorry to hear of your loss. Pastor Dwayne was a remarkable person and he impacted my life greatly. You will remain in our thoughts and prayers.
Love,
Scott, Janelle & Joshua Wildeman
Janet, Ashlynn and Tyler,
My heart goes out to you in this time of sorrow. Reading your journal of courage and joy in the face of pain and suffering has blessed and prodded me to deeper faith in my walk with God.
Our Lord Jesus is enjoying Dwayne's presence in heaven today. My prayers are with you as you continue to live and walk by faith down here on earth.
Janet, Ashlynn, Tyler,
We're all so sorry for your loss. Dwayne was an amazing guy. We're so glad you all had that week at family camp and that Dwayne could say goodbye to you and the kids. Our prayers will be with you through this time, as we mourn the loss of Dwayne, and also as we rejoice that he has gone home.
- Greg, Fern, Zoe, Max, Isaac, Ronan (the Paulhus family)
Janet and kids,
My name is Kathryn Baerg, niece-in-law to Wayne and Helen Harms. I attend West Portal and was there when you and Dwayne started the church plant. Around the time that you and Dwayne found out about his illness, my father suddenly passed away. Andrew and I have taken great comfort in reading this blog. Dwayne and you have encouraged us through your words. Heaven has become so real to us this summer and I know that Dwayne is now up there celebrating in heaven with my Dad. I am deeply sorry for your loss. We will continue to pray for you and your children as you adjust to this huge loss.
Janet, Ashlynn, Tyler, and extended family: My sincere sympathy to you as you go through this time of sorrow. May God carry you through this difficult time.
You don't know me, but I have been following this blog since the beginning , and want you to know how it has blessed me and challenged me. thank you
I considered Dwayne a good friend and a mentor. His life and words, and the books he got me to read will have a lasting impact on my life. Today I went up to Jimmy Java (where we spent so much time together)and had one last coffee with him to say goodbye. In the words of an Orthodox prayer, "May his memory be eternal".
Janet, Ashlynn and Tyler, you are in our prayers.
Bruce Anderson
Dear Janet,
I can picture the enormous basin of prayers that have been, and will continue to be presented to our Heavenly Father because of this journey your family has been on. God says He delights in our prayers; therefore, your family has inspired an abundance of delight for the King of kings by sharing this journey with anyone who wanted to walk it with you.
Thank you for being so gracious!! I know the Lord IS blessing you for it as He carries you in His purpose.
With continued love and prayers for you and your children,
Janet, I was in shock and deep sorrow as Trev told me the news this afternoon. I am so sorry to hear about your loss and I can't even begin to imagine what you are going through. Deep down I prayed for a miracle, but some how I knew this was God's choice. I had a feeling that God was going to take Dwayne this week. There were nights I was up many times throughout the night fearful that Dwayne had passed away. I can't believe this has happened and I have many questions, as I am sure many others do too. Dwayne was the one man who I could respect as an older male figure in my life. He was a friend, a mentor and a great pastor. Dwayne was the one person who didn't make me feel like I was never good enough. He believed in me and I am so glad I had the priviledge to work with him when I did my internship at Living Hope. Janet, my heart goes out to you and your kids and your family. As much as I do not understand why this happened I do know that God must have a plan. Dwayne was a man with an infectous smile. He touched many lives and I know that his story will continue to do so. You are a strong woman and I pray that God will be near to you in a special way.
When I had those sleepless nights I was reminded of the words to a song by Ray Boltz. I was not sure when I should send them but now I know I need to. It's a song that is about Dwayne...atleast that's who I think of when I sing it:
"Thank You"
I dreamed I went to heaven and you were there with me. We walked upon the streets of gold beside the crystal sea. We heard the angels singing and someone called your name. You turned and saw this young man and he was smiling as he came. He said, friend, you may not know me now. Then he said, but wait, You used to teach my Sunday school when I was only eight. Every week you would say a prayer before the class would start, and one day when you said that prayer, I asked Jesus in my heart.
Thank you for giving to the Lord, for I am a life that was changed. Thank you for giving to the Lord. I am so glad you gave.
Then another man stood before you, said remember the time a missionary came to your church and his pictures made you cry. You didn't have much money but you gave it any way. Jesus took the gift you gave and that's why I am here today.
Thank you for giving to the Lord. For I am a life that was changed. Thank you for giving to the Lord. I am so glad you gave.
One by one they came, far as the eye could see. Each life somehow touched by your generosity. Little things that you had done, sacrifices made. Unnoticed on the earth, in heaven now proclaimed.
I know up in heaven, you're not suppose to cry. But I am almost sure there were tears in your eyes. As Jesus took your hand, you stood before the Lord. He said, my child, look around you. For great is your reward.
Thank you for giving to the Lord. For I am a life that was changed. Thank you for giving to the Lord. I am so glad you gave.
Janet, I thank God for you and for Dwayne. Thank you for having an impact on my life. I am a better person because of my time at Living Hope Church and because of my friendship with Dwayne.
In deepest sympathy,
Rebekah and Trevor Friesen
I met Dwayne four times in my life, and will not forget him as long as I live.
He was the embodiment of the phrase "you are the only Bible some people will ever read". Every fibre of his mortal body radiated God's love. What a shining example of what God wants us to be!
Janet, Ashlynn and Tyler, thank you for sharing Dwayne with us. We too will carry his memory with us all of our lives.
He made God proud.
June Wilson
Dear Janet, Tyler and Ashlynn,
Words can't express my sadness for the loss of your father and your husband. I had the privilege of speaking at camp last week where Tyler attended for the beginning of the week; the legacy that Dwayne has left for you as a family will continue on through each of you as well as the words he so eloquently wrote throughout these last months. I eagerly read each journal entry as part of my devotions each time I checked in. Dwayne truly will join the "heroes of faith" that Paul describes in Hebrews 12. "Since we have such a great cloud of witnesses, let us run the race..." I do believe that God will continue to give life to both the written and spoken words that Dwayne has shared in his many years of faithful service. He was a man who truly believed in an extraordinary God and apparently lived each moment with that conviction. I will continue to pray for you that Jehovah Shammah "The God who is There" will continue to comfort, heal, protect and restore through this time of loss and grief.
Marilyn Muller
Janet, Ashlynn & Tyler,
We are so sorry to hear about Dwayne's passing. My prayers go out to all of you. Dwayne's journey has brought myself closer to God. Through his blog I have learned to NEVER give up praising and praying to God, and to thank him for all that He has done and all that He will do.Because of this site I have looked up every passage in the Bible pertaining to prayer. I have prayed more for you and because of you I have learned a valuable lesson about how never to lose your faith and how to just rely on God For He will take care of you no matter what.
A huge hug goes out to all of you.
And always remember that you are loved and prayed for.
2 Thessalonians 3:16
"Now may the Lord of peace himself give you peace at all times and in every way. The Lord be with all of you."
Take care
Twyla
Dear Janet, Ashlyn and Tyler,
I arrived in Manitoba late yesterday at my parents' in preparation to go to a friend's wedding on the 20th. Even though we've been expecting that Dwayne might be called home soon, it was still a shock to me as the meaning of your first sentence made it through my travel-weary mind. My mom and I wept together as we read your message. My parents and siblings have been praying for you, and their churches have as well. Mom called her pastor and let him know too.
Who can understand such a thing? As Mom and I talked and cried together, she was reminded of when my cousin was killed by a drunk driver. Why did she have to die? My uncle & aunt's pastor said to them, "she was ready to go. She loved her Lord, her life was in order, and this gave the driver another chance go get his life in order." Her death was still so hard to understand, and my uncle & aunt wanted their girl back, but there was alot of truth in that statement. Maybe that's why the Lord took Dwayne home - he was ready, and maybe through his death, someone who's been reading this blog will make that decision to follow Christ, and in that way Dwayne's ministry continues, even though he's not with us.
I pray for peace and strength for all of you - what a month you've had, with first your Mom, and now Dwayne. There's no way any of us can say the right words, as we have not experienced what you are experiencing, but I know God will be with you and strengthen you as you go through this time. As you go through the hard times of these next days and weeks, with the grace and poise that you already have shown, I can imagine Dwayne looking down at you and saying those words to you that he said in the ambulance, when you witnessed to the attendant, "Way to go Janet!"
I'm sorry I won't be able to attend Dwayne's life celebration, but Allan will be there as representative from our family. Please know that the prayers and thoughts will continue to be with you, from our family and my parents and my siblings.
In Love and Prayers,
Joanne
Janet, Tyler & Ashlynn,
My heart aches for you. Although Doralin and I haven't been able to see you for the past few years, the connection we made at NBI, still continues.
My thoughts go back to the evening in the guys dorm when Dwayne, Byron and myself prayed for our future spouses, whoever and wherever they may be. God answered that prayer. Janet, He lead you and Dwayne together. There was no mistake! He blessed you! He had a plan. And He used our time at NBI to train us and guide us.
Unfortunatly, this world isn't perfect. Sin has made it a place where pain and loss is felt. I don't believe that God ever intended for us to feel pain. But He can take something so dreadful and somehow, use it for His glory.
Although words can be meaningful, I know that what speaks more and much much deeper, is the prayers of the saints. And from what I've been reading in the comments, you have sold prayer support, not only from friends, but also people you have never met, and probably will never meet here on earth. Have no doubt. People have been blessed. God has used Dwayne, not only in his health, but also in his death.
I found out a few days ago that another friend of my passed away after being sick for just over a week. Although she went to NBI, I'm not sure if she ever met Dwayne. But if she hadn't before, I'm sure that she has now.
Be strong Janet. Be strong in the Lord! He is mighty!
We will continue to keep you in our prayers.
Leroy, for Doralin, Brooklyn, Ashley, and Alexi
I am a friend of a friend, and have never met your family, but it is very clear to me that your husband was a wonderful man. The messages here show so clearly that Dwayne was loved and respected and will be greatly missed.
I pray that your family will be able to rejoice that you have each other to share your grief with, and that Dwayne's character will live on by the memories you have of him and by the impact he had on so many.
God bless you in your time of grief.
-from Prince George, BC
Janet,
My heart aches for you and your children. We will continue to pray for you and your family. Thank you for allowing us into your life. You have been a blessing.
Colleen
It is with great sympathy and saddened hearts that we write to you.We don't know you and your husband personaly,but we feel we have gotten to know you as we have gone through Dwaynes Journal with you in the past months.Our hearts have been touched and inspired by your faith and trust in the Lord through it all.We have been praying for you and will keep praying for you and your children during this difficult time.May God be with you and comfort,bless and carry you in a very special way.
Aaron and Tena Friesen .
(We know your mom and dad from the Warman Gospel Church)
Dear Janet and family,
I am sooo sorry to hear about your loss. I am in a loss for words and can't even imagine what you are going through. I was getting to know Dwayne through Citizen Patrol and when he emailed me to tell me to use an alternate email address while he is on medical leave from the church, I had no idea how serious his illness was. He was obviously an amazing man because he was more worried about not being able to help me out patrolling then he was about his illness. He didn't even let on what his illness was and didn't ask for any sympathy. I am so sorry to hear he passed away and please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you. I will be at his funeral to pay my respects.
Take care..
Betty Hegedus
May Dwayne rejoy in heaven. Him and Krystal are together. I know they both looking down on the family. Being guardian angels for the family. They are rejoycing! My deepest sympathy. I am reminded of this one time at youth group. Dwayne could never keep up with my numberous emails. He had came up with this plan that he would type an email to me before you and send it right as I was walking in the door. He deffinatly had a clever plan. That night was baseball at youth. Dwayne was pitcher and laughing about how I owed him an email. Well needless to say the ball connected with the bat and I hit him smack in the leg. It was bad and I didnt mean for it to happen at all needless to say he stopping bugging me that he was ahead and I owed him an email for once. Years later I know he still remembers it. Youth was a wonderful time. I learnt about God through PD and PK. It was nice to pay my final respects to him yesterday in person. He knew who I was. I will contiue to pray for your family. All the best to you all.
Janet, Ashlynn and Tyler
Words cannot express my saddness and sorrow over your loss at this time.
Dwayne was the best Pastor I've ever had the privledge to be in a church with - he was authentic, real, direct and intense. But most of all he really cared deeply about each person he was pastor to. Even the last time I saw him - last Monday, as he lay in his hospital bed, so weak he could hardly say more than a sentence without having to rest and catch his breath, he was genuinely interested in what was going on in my life, more than discussing his own.
I was crying most of the day (off an on) at work today, and my co-workers think it's really amazing that someone could have such a friendship with a pastor, that I would be so affected - they seem to think a pastor is someone aloof and on a pedestal. But they didn't know Dwayne, and if they did, they'd know why we will all miss him so much. He was truly an amazing servant of God who inspired and challenged everyone he came into contact with.
One of the songs we sang last week was a song we did in January, and I had borrowed the tape of the January service to relearn the song. I was also listening to Dwayne on that tape - so alive, intense and vital. It just doesn't seem real that he is gone, that that passion, that flame that burned so brightly is no longer burning on earth (although I know it is burning brighter that ever in heaven right now).
My life will be forever touched by having Dwayne as my Pastor and friend, and my thoughts and prayers are constantly with you as you face the challenges that lie ahead.
Crystal Stroeder
Dear Janet, Ashlyn, and Tyler,
Just logged on this evening and read your sorrowful news about Dwayne's passing early this morning.
We have been thinking about you and talking about you folks a lot today.
My niece from Simcoe, Ontario and her husband Denis were here for supper and now have gone to visit Joy Anne and Bob. We told them about Dwayne. As soon as they left we turned to the computer.
We are thankful for this modern invention that's lets us know of others needs and sorrows so quickly.
We did enjoy all of you folks the years you were in Midale. It was fun watching your little family grow from infants to school age.
We will continue to keep the three of you in our thoughts and prayers.
Take care of yourselves.
Love, Axel and Anne
Janet, Ashlynn, Tyler, Dan, Helen, Shauna, Karstan, and Family
Words cannot express how you all have been on my mind these last couple months. Now more than ever I pray that God will be with you as you walk though the next few days, weeks, and months. I pray that God will be there for each and every one of you with His Love and Peace.
I've been listening to this song with the Harms family in mind.
LOVE REMAINS
With all the changes in my world
You're still the same
When all my hope has gone away
I still see You
Everywhere around me
In every way I've found
You still remain
You have been my Abba Father
When You've held me in Your arms
The touch of Your hand
The smile on Your face
Always lets me know
Everything's okey
The day will come when I will take a final breath
And leave behind all that I've kown
When all that's left
Are memories of a lifetime
And pictures of a love
That will remain
When there's nothing left to say
No more to do
The hands of time have lost their way
I will find my Destiny inside You
Forever in a Love that will Remain.
Thank-you for taking us on this journey with you. It has changed my life.
Dear Janet, Ashlynn and Tyler,
What an unbelievably sad day for those of us here on earth ... but what celebrating must be taking place in heaven! John 10:10 says "I come that they may have life and have it abundantly". We know that Dwayne didn't just live life, he embraced it and lived it abundantly. I will always hold dear Dwayne's enthusiasm for connecting with people and the openness with which he shared his faith. Ashlynn and Tyler's strong faith in God and their desire to share it with their peers leaves testimony of the legacy that Dwayne has imparted on his family. Thank you Janet for sharing Dwayne's earthly journey to the end through this blog. May God's presence and love be very real to you and the children over the next days and weeks. I know many prayers will continue to be petitioned on your behalf.
Love in Christ,
Menno and Lynn Janzen
We are writing to say how sad we were to hear the news of Dwayne's passing. Though this is probably the darkest time of your life remember that the light at the end of the Tunnel is the shinning of our Lord & Dwayne is standing right there beside him with that big infectious smile adding to the brillance. Dwaynes brief but glorious stay here on earth was a true blessing to all who met him & all who will be touched by his and your account of your travel through these last few weeks.
In times when you and the children feel lonely and deserted, remember that when you look back and see only one set of foot prints in the sand, that God has not desereted you but is there carrying you through this time. Also remeber that Dwayne may not be with you in person but he will always be with you in your heart & memories.
Until the time arrives that we are all with the Lord, may you be truly Blessed and remember that you and the children are in many peoples prayers.
Dwayne's race is over and he fought a great battle and won the ultimate medal - being with the Lord. Not only has he won the race but he has help many others to enter the race and win that ultimate race - Eternity.
God Bless
Bill & Millie Wright
We extend our deepest sympathy to you, Janet, your children and Dan & Helen. We continue to keep you in our prayers as do many of the people at Faith Fellowship in Brandon. We send you all our love. May God uphold you in the difficult days ahead. Ernie & Shirley Fishbook
Dear Janet, Ashlynn, and Tyler,
I know it's been a tough time for you and it will continue to be so for you in the coming days. I have fond memories of Dwayne ministering here in Midale. Dwayne had marvelous enthusiasm, energy and commitment. He certainly was not afraid to share his faith and God has used him to do just that right till the end of his life here on this earth. Our lives here in Midale have been enriched by Dwayne's life and ministry. Thank you Janet for coming here with Dwayne and being a part of our lives while you lived here.
Many of us here in Midale will be praying for you in the coming days. May the Lord bless you richly and meet all your needs!
Garth and Sandra
Dearest Janet,
I can't begin to say all that is in my heart. This morning this world lost a great example of the love of Christ. Our loss, heavens gain. I am so full of emotion I really don't even know how to say it all, so I guess I will just say that knowing Dwayne was a privelage and honor and I learned a great deal from him in the years that I knew him. I want you to know that when everything is over and you move on as you must, that I would like to come down and stay a few days with you and just "be".
I am torn as I am going to be on a missions trip during the memorial, but please know I will be thinking and praying for you every moment of that day and the days following. All I can say is that I know in my heart of hearts and from what I've seen in you that your Friend and Comforter weeps with you and stands beside you constantly and will be your strength. I am privelaged to call you "friend" and hope that I can walk through some of this with you.
I know you have lots of people around you now and that is why I have not called = but I am here if you want to just "be".
Lov you lots
Tiff Frank
Janet, we have considered you and Dwayne a complete blessing in our lives. Our hearts have ached for you and Dwayne as God has taken you down this dark path. But God is faithful and through this path He has taken you on we have seen Jesus's strength in you. We are very sorry to hear of your loss, but happy to know Dwayne is in glory with a huge smile on his face. He is most likely on a peaceful run with his Father in heaven. Dwayne's life has been an example to us all and now through his death God has been glorified. Through this blog and his living testimony he has planted many seeds and will produce many fruits. Joyce and I can't even imagine how you are feeling. We are constantly praying for you and your children and think of you often. Nothing will be able to separate you from the love of God (Romans 8:37-39). May He continue to guide your steps and watch over you, Ashlynn and Tyler.
Trevor & Joyce
Janet, Tyler and Ashlynn
I have followed Dwayne's blog and have prayed for him and for you and are so sorry to hear of your loss. I pray now for God's peace and presence and love to be very near you in the days ahead. I pray for things like rest and wisdom and clear thinking as you face the choices that lie ahead. Ashlynn and Tyler, I will pray for you as school starts again this fall - that God will walk with you as He never has before and that He will give you courage and strength to face life. I hurt for you and don't know why God did not choose to heal Dwayne but I know that He is good and pray that you would know His goodness in a deeper way this year than you ever have before.
Aimee
I am so sorry to hear of Dwayne's passing. But what an amazing impact he has had on everyone he came in contact with. There is no question that he fulfilled God's purpose in his life. He was just so good at it that he finished much earlier than we would have liked him too.
I am reminded of the Stephen Curtis Chapman song "With Hope" at this time. The second verse says 'Never have I known anything so hard to understand, and never have I questioned more the wisdom of God's plan. But through the cloud of tears, I see the Father smile and say "well done!" , and I imagine Dwayne where he wanted most to be, seeing all his dreams come true, because now he's home and now he's free. And we can cry with hope, we can say goodbye with hope, because we know our goodbye is not the end. And we can grieve with hope because we believe with hope that there's a place where we'll see his face again.'
The last time I was going to be passing through Saskatoon, Dwayne told me to call him and he would meet me for coffee. It turned out that we drove through at around 4:30 a.m. so I didn't want to bother him and when I informed him, he was disappointed that I didn't call because he would have loved to get together. I truly regret that now.
Unfortunately I will be unable to attend the service, but I want each of you to know that you will be in my thoughts and prayers throughout this week and in the weeks to come as you face a new reality. It is so good to know that you are so strong in your faith in God and we will trust that His mighty hand will carry you all through this difficult time.
Janet, i cannot begin to imagine what is going through your mind and heart at this time but i know that God is with you along with the prayers of many brothers and sisters. the strength Dwayne showed in his life and the strength you have showed right along with him is something i cannot begin to understand, but i know it is God's answer to prayer. i praise God for the incredible witness your family has been and will continue to be even through something that is so hard. i only hope at my earthly life's end i could have impacted one person as much as Dwayne's life has impacted hundreds or even thousands. i will continue to pray for your family and i thank you so much for the blessing of your testimony.
with much love, lisa nazarenko
Dear Janet,Ashlynn and Tyler
(& Karsten and Jackie)
What can I say that has not yet been said. We ache deeply for your loss, and yet at the same time rejoice for Dwayne's gain. He was an amazing man,husband,father,
brother,pastor,leader and friend. He did things here at Living Hope,and in Silverwood that only he could have done. We are so grateful to have had Dwayne in our lives and our church for these past years.
I don't think there is anything truly that can be said to ease your pain right now, so I will not try to do so. Just know we love you all and will be here for you.
One last thought I will share with you is a picture I have had in my head all day. I can see Dwayne,running through the most amazing landscape,Rocky at his side,and the biggest grin ever on his face.Dwayne has had the most amazing day today,and God has been glorified!
May God's peace be with you Janet,Ashylnn and Tyler tonight.We are all praying for you...
Shelley
Dear Janet & Children:
You dn't know me. I am Bob Dunlop from Fredericton, N.B. I just read of Dwayne's Homegoing! He is with His Lord and we rejoice in this blessed truth from God's word. "Absent from the body, present with the Lord". What hope we have in Christ. My Dad died when I was only 12 years old, so I feel for your children. My mother was left with 8 children under 16 years of age to bring up alone. I want to tell you that our Lord never let her down. He met and supplied our needs. He will do the same for you. Philippians 4:19.
I have gotten to know you through this website and have prayed for you many times. May our dear Lord Jesus Christ be very near these days and give you strength and grace. We will be praying for the Memorial service and for the Lord to minister to all who attend. God bless all of you.
Bob & Margie Dunlop
To Dwayne's family,
How sad I was to hear of your loss. Please know that you are being lifted up in prayer by me and my husband. The prayer that I felt that I should pray for you is "strength for today and bright hope for tomorrow". I have no words of comfort except to say that from all I've read here and have heard about Dwayne, I am sure he loves being in the presence of his Friend and Savior, Jesus. Take care.
Stacey Bell
Janet, Tyler & Ashlynn,
I am thinking of you today as you begin your journey of healing and saying goodbye to a man who was much loved and so committed to Christ. By God's grace and love he gets us through these valleys. My heart hurts for you and many tears have fallen. I was greatly encouraged by Dwayne and Janet as well as I read the blog everyday, new entry after entry. The Lord is in control and his perfect plan for Dwayne was carried out until completion. I have no doubt Janet that Dwayne is singing with the angels and as he meets with Jesus he will hear the words, "Well done they good and faithful servant". The Lord has shown me through Dwayne what it truly means to sacrifice and lay down ones life to follow and serve the Lord.
Thank you for letting God work through you.
Melissa Reid
Janet, Tyler & Ashlynn,
We can't begin to say how sorry we are that you have to go through such a loss as this. Our hearts hurt for you , yet rejoice for Dwayne. We had to smile when we thought of him grinning from ear to ear as he was embraced by his heavenly father. We will always be grateful that we were able to see him Monday night and I know that Stu and Darren will always cherish the time they spent at his bedside during the late quiet hours as well as all the memories they made together fishing and gaming and having coffee while enjoying some amazing conversations.
We will continue to hold you up in prayer. May you have smiles amongst the tears as you go through this journey. If there is every anything we can do, please don't hesitate to call.
Cheryl Olson
Janet, Tyler and Ashlynn,
We are so sorry for your loss. Words really can't convey what we feel at a time like this, but we want you to know you are in our thoughts and our prayers as you go through this difficult time.
Dwayne was a great guy. I really enjoyed it a few years ago when he spoke at our Men's Fishing Trip at Nemeiben Lake. He had a way of cutting to the issue, and saying it the way it was, but doing it with compassion and honesty.
He will truly be missed, but we will all see him again one day.
May God bless you and keep you.
Russ and Dawna Dyck, Colton and Austin (from Ebenezer)
Janet, Ashlynn & Tyler
We are here for you and are walking through this journey with you in our prayers always.
Dwayne has touched our lives in very real ways with support, encouragement, prayer and yes even the 4:30 AM paper route. (Braden will never look at the Lorras bin by the Husky without smiling and remembering Dwayne.)
Alex says, tell Tyler that he hopes they will be in the same class at school. He wants to continue to support him in ways that kids can.
Braden remembers Dwayne's sermons when Dwayne would mention the list of questions he would have for God when he would see Him face to face. When I told Braden the news, he gave a little smile and asked, "How many questions do you think Dwayne has checked off his list already?"
You are a special family. Chosen by God for special purposes. May He comfort you and give you peace in the days ahead.
Judy
I would like to contribute by drawing a portrait of Dwayne. I would like to ask for some clearer photos, in particular any that you are quite fond of, Janet. DH had a huge effect on our family, and his ministry of evangelism is apparent with his willingness to pray with Brian, and to provide some practical needs, when we were suffering financial problems. DH's humour, compassion, and zeal for God were infectious!
Dear Janet, Tyler & Ashlynn,
We are so very sorry to hear of your loss of Dwayne, such a loving and devoted husband and father. You shared a wealth of inspiration and encouragement through this blog as you travelled on this challenging journey. We prayed for God's Will and I guess God thought Dwayne's work on earth was complete (and God always knows what is best) and God truly used each one of you to the good of the Lord through your faith and love and devotion for Him. Thank you for your inspiration and faith in times of strife. We pray for continued strength for your family as you continue your own journey. May you rejoice and find complete peace in knowing that DH is with his Saviour, and, as other people have said, he is probably grinning from ear to ear that heaven is more fabulous than could ever be imagined. God is in control and He won't forget you or let you down. He is always with you all the way! Our thoughts and prayers continue to be with you and Ashlynn and Tyler!
With love and prayers,
Arnie and Ronda (from WP)
I've posted a proper tribute to dwayne on my blog (click my name link to read it) but I wanted to comment on his blog as well. To Janet, Ashlynn and Tyler I just want to say that my prayers are with you, and as I promised I would share in the suffering, I maintain that promise. I am constantly reminded when I grieve for Dwayne that this is a beginning for him, a life without pain where he can finally talk to all the patriarchs and heroes of the Bible that he studied on the Earth. And I can't wait to meet him there again and ask him about all the things he's learned.
I pray earnestly for supernatural peace to be on your family, and I pray also that Dwayne's life and writings and memories will continue to teach people about living a good life. And I grieve even for my own loss of a newly found friend and pastor who brought me to such a good church family.
I am angry with Satan for stealing Dwayne from us long before his time, and I hope that anger will spur me towards helping other people, just as it should. I hope also that others who know him won't be angry at God, but at Satan, because God isn't the one who tries to steal, kill, and destroy. He gives peace and comfort and answers when you are ready for them.
I appreciated reading this blog very much, and I know how it has encouraged me. I appreciated Dwayne's life and message, and I thank God for giving me the opportunity to say these things to him long before I knew he was sick.
I thank God for bringing me where I am, and though many people would leave a church in a crisis like this, I could never do that. I've finally found a church family. And it was all thanks to Dwayne and a night he came to IVCF and taught on fasting. I still have the notes he handed out that night. And a silly game where we traded shoes was interrupted by God to bring Dwayne and I together in a conversation that led to my descision to come to Living Hope.
I appreciated getting to know you, too, Janet. And I'm glad I could give you some encouragement. I am truly and deeply sorry for this loss, but there is so much hope yet. History and present news make it sound as if it may only be a few years until the second coming, and even if God waits longer, time is elusive and goes by very fast. You have the promise of seeing him again.
I thank God for bringing me into Dwayne's life, and only wish I could have known him longer. My love and prayers to you.
I just found out today about Dwayne's passing and although I didn't know him very well, I felt close to him because he had such a great impact on my sister's spritual journey. I am thankful for Dwayne's gift to share God's word as it brought her (and others) closer to God. I am also thankful that he was able to baptize her at the family camp where I could share in her joy.
I will pray for God's comfort for you (& others who grieve Dwayne's passing) because as Dwayne wrote:
"Each one of us takes our life experiences and applies them to how we can walk along with others we relate to. ... And when you do, you feel good about being able to comfort or care for or walk with a friend.
"Praise be to the... Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God." "
So, although I am not there to hold your hand, I walk with you.
Love,
Audrey (from Calgary)
Janet,Ashlynn,Tyler,Karsten, Jackie and family
I'm writing this with a broken heart. Dwayne was a truly amazing man, a ball of fire, and was loved by all of us at Living Hope Church. We will miss him SO much. He baptized me, came to visit me in the hospital, and always had a smile for everyone, he oozed enthuiasm....his legacy will continue on. God must have a purpose for all those attributes in Heaven. I pray Janet, that you and your family will find the peace, comfort, courage and strength you need to get through the days ahead. You are in my thoughts and prayers. God bless you.
Cheryl Larner
Janet, Ashlynn & Tyler
I am so sorry about your loss.
It was an honour to have known Dwayne. You meet very few people in your life that touch you like Dwayne touched my family and I. The world is a little sadder today, for it has lost a wonderful husband, father, son, brother, friend. I will miss his infectious smile and kind words. I will always remember Dwayne as a man amoung men, someone who made a huge impact on so many lives in such a short period of time.
Its so hard to let go of something so precious.
I'm so glad I got to hear Pastor Harms some months ago. He was a shooting star across the sky, blazing a glorious trail until his light was no longer visible. He has gone to a greater glory. God be with you all.
Janet, Ashlynn, Tyler, Karsten, Jackie
I´m sitting here in an internet cafe in Mexico, tears streaming down my cheeks. Wouldn´t Dwayne get a kick out of that - tears out of the tough girl! I can´t believe he´s gone; I truly had not a doubt of his recovery. As I read the blogs you´d typed since Dwayne´s surgery, I am awed by your faithfulness and courage, Janet. I wish I could be there physically to give you yet one more shoulder or more than eager arms to help. Dwayne was such an encouragement to me, a mentor, a teacher, a friend. I once told him that the thing I liked most about him was that he was a real person. Some pastors I´ve met are one person at church, and another out of church. Dwayne was a shining light for God everywhere he went, and he didn´t worry about trying to make himself be a "Sunday pastor" or change who he was. What you saw was what you got, coffee addiction and all! He challenged me to grow, and I will miss him so much! I thank God, though, that I had the chance to get to know him a little, to see his passion to share God´s love, and to have had the chance to be mentored by my favourite pastor.
God be with you all! You´re in my prayers!
Lots of love,
Nomi
Only a few times in life do you cross paths with someone who truly changes you. Dwayne was that someone for me. At a Bible Study I attended years ago he made a comment that has stuck with me and probably will forever. I had made a comment to a non-believer who was at the study that God doesn't expect us to be perfect. Dwayne gently corrected me and said "Actually, He does". He reminded us of the verse "Be ye perfect as I am perfect". That has forever changed my perspective on how I live my life. Dwayne was a shining example of a life lived to reflect his Saviour. I thank God for Dwayne.
Wow....
It's just so hard to believe!
Words cannot express how much Dwayne has meant to me, (and I'm sure all of us from LHC)
Dwayne was a mentor, a friend, a teacher, etc. the list goes on.
My thoughts and prayers are with you now, but wait this should be a happy day that the pain has ended for you. To be in heaven; life everlasting and healing beyond compare.
But for Janet, Ashlyn and Tyler, may God build strength in you to mourn, and continue to keep faith in our Father in heaven. my prayers are with you now.
Rob
Janet, and family,
You do not know me nor did i know Dwayne, but I have been reading Dwaynes journey, and praying along with you all through this. I feel blessed to have been able to read his words and to have gotten to know him through his blogging. I attend West Portal church, and we too have had our health issues which I think is why This has helped me in remembering that God is always there and he may not answer the way we want him to but he does answer. I just want you to know that i am praying for you and your family that God will be with you and we know that Dwayne is now with our savior. I wish you patience, understanding, And most of all that your children understand Gods Need for Dwayne to be with him now. Bless you and your family for being so strong through all of this.
April Peters
Janet, Tyler and Ashlynn,
My heart aches for you and for your loss.
In this time of grieving, I find some solace in Ecc 3:1-8.
To DH, my friend: Take care until we meet again.
Your brother in Christ,
Brian L. Turner
Everytime I read this entry of Janet's the same thing happens as tears roll down my face.....I think "Well done thy good and faithful servant". Dwayne had a profound impact on my husband and I. What I will cherish the most was his energy, his bright smile, his ability to give a sermon that just touched me in a way that I had never experienced before. His authenticity and his relationship with Jesus was an example so powerful to me that each day I felt compelled to live my faith in a more intentional open way. When Dwayne started this blog I felt so priviledged and humbled that through his pain and fear he continued to minister to us and fufill his desire to be a shining example of God's love. Rob and I will also remember how he would get down to eye level with our 3 year old and have a conversation with him like he was the most important person in the world at that very moment.
We thank God daily that you were able to have family camp together at Camp Oshkidee. I cannot begin to express the emotion I feel when I see the beautiful picture in my head of Dwayne and Boyd baptizing Rob in the lake. Blessed be the name of the Lord that Dwayne was such an influence of God's love to us!
Our hearts ache for you Janet and the kids. Also Dwayne's parents and siblings. We pray that in your times of loneliness and grief you will remember the legacy that Dwayne left behind - you will see it in the actions, smiles and faithwalk of the people who were impacted by his faithful walk with our Heavenly Father. His influence has left its mark - and through this blog he reached even more people then he could have any other way.
A victorious finish it was! Our love and prayers,
Rob, Wendy and Daniel Kasdorf
Janet,Tyler, & Ashlynn,
Our thoughts & prayers are with you. Dwayne will be truly missed, we really appreciated his enthusiasm and joy that was beyond human. It was so very evident that he was filled with the holy spirit and walked with Jesus wherever he went. I praise God that he is walking along side Jesus at this very moment and am truly encouraged to strive to live my life with the same enthusiasm for christ.
Thank you so much for sharing Your's and Dwayne's journey through this time.
Love & Prayers,
Shaun & Melody Neudorf (BC)
The Harms Family...
I give you my condolences for the loss of Dwayne.
Dwayne was an inspiration to me, leading me to the way of a straight life. I remember the times we went out for coffee, and just him talking to me was inspirational. Because of him, I got off of drugs and alcohol.
Remember Janet, Dwayne was a miracle to some people. He's touched so many people.
On behalf of myself (Jamie Boser) and Dave & Diane Pollom, we give your our best in the new journey that leads in front of you.
Dear Janet & family,
In my last meeting with Dwayne, the words he spoke that stayed with me are these, "I love this church. I love the people. I love being a pastor." He also expressed his appreciation for your loyalty and never failing support.
My heart goes out to you. May God ease your pain.
Clarence
Waldheim M.B.
Hello Janet.
My name is Lisa Braun. You and I were in Warman School together years ago - my maiden name was Hiebert. We share mutual friends - the McBrides.
God be with you during this time - I know He is very close to you and your family. My heart breaks for you and your kids.
I came across a phrase the other day that just continues to stick with me. "Becoming Better not Bitter through the circumstances of our lives." Reading through this site definitely revealed to me that Dwayne became better as he got closer to the end of his journey. He sounds like a wonderful person to have known.
You are in the prayers of many.
In Christ's Love,
Lisa Braun
Janet, I am a man of few words and all I really have to say is this: Dwayne was a very inspiring man with a heart that will be remembered.
I can't imagine not having my Mandy around and I can't even begin to imagine the strength it would take to deal with what you have dealt with. All the best,
Del Sherle.
Janet, I never met Dawyne or you in person but I feel as though I have come to know you very well. Dawyne's words have been a great insperation to me and have also opened my eyes to a whole new veiw on the world. I believe so many people around the world have learnt a great deal through Dwayne's journey. Although it seems like many prayers were unanswered I think that God has a much bigger plan for Dwayne's life/story that will incorperate many more people and many more prayers.
Katherine Sanders
Dear Janet,Tyler, Ashlynn,
Dan, Helen, Karsten and Shawna
We are so saddened to hear of Dwayne's passing. We are standing beside you. Even though we are not able to be with you physically, we are near to you in our hearts and prayers.
I listened to Steve Green's The Mission numerous times today, that album has always made me think of the Harms family as they gave it to our family many years ago. So many songs made me think of Dwayne especially the Refiner's Fire and I am Crucified with Christ.
Please know how much you are all being cherished in hearts literally around the world. As we are here in Japan we weep with you and our family in Canada and in India are praying for you and remembering you at this time.
Sending you all so so much love,
Paul and LeeAnne Benjamin
(nee: Thiessen)
Thank you for sharing your heart. May God bless you and your family through this time.
Janet,
You don't know me but I am deeply touched by Dwayne's Journey blog. I lost my mother to renal failure last year. She was a remarkable woman. Dwayne's strength and your's, just blows me away. Your faith in God, makes me think of religion again. I know it is going to be tough for you and your children. Prayer is the answer and you will need to take good care of yourself also. Try to get rest and eat properly. Take care and God bless you and your children.....Dwayne will look over you and the kids...from the other side....
Janet and family,
May you feel HIS strong arms around you, carrying you, and may HIS peace fill your hearts. I do not know you, but have been touched immensely through your and Dwayne's journey. His journelling has challenged me in my walk with the Lord. I will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
Dear Janet, Tyler and Ashlynn,
We will continue to uphold you in our prayers as you hold dear your memories of your beloved husband and daddy. Dwayne will be remembered by me as such a huge encourager as I led worship and would seek him out in the crowd as positive reinforcement by his enormous smile, his uplifted hands, his whole body language praising our Lord. I always think of him too, as I run with my two dogs and how much he loved running with his. Even that was motivation to keep me moving with my canine friends! Our brainstorming sessions were such a blessing to me as well when we planned together for a worship service. I thank God for the priviledge of having Dwayne as my pastor and my friend and when I close my eyes I can just imagine him with renewed strength, praising Jesus face to face. With much love and prayers,
Donna Tieszen and Leighton and Olivia.
To the family,
I once heard a story of an amazing man who died tragically in an accident. After his death, a memorial scholarship was set up in his name to help youth at risk attend a local Christian camp. The comment was made that this man's life continually brought glory to God through his death.
It seems to me that this blog has done the same.
My prayers are with you.
-A stranger from Toronto, Ontario
Janet, Tyler, and Ashlynn,
Times like these words are just not enough. Our hearts break for you and we are keeping you in our prayers everyday. We were blessed to get to know Ashlynn this week at camp. She is a beautiful girl whose heart is a reflection of the God who lives in side of her. Our prayer for you is that God will strengthen you as a family and draw you deeper into relationship with one another and with Our Father.
In deepest sympathy,
Tim & Kelsie-Lynn Harms
Janet, I struggle to understand the WHY of it all but as DH said we have to surrender every part of our lives to Christ. I just hadn't given much thought to the fact that this also includes the LENGTH of our lives. I appreciated Dwayne. His life, witness and passion did and continues to challenge me as a pastor. We've all been blessed by meeting and knowing him. May God surround you and your children with is loving presence and grant you much strength and comfort in the days ahead.
Bob C
My heart is deeply saddened as to the great loss one must bear. I have never met your family but have been informed to great extents for years, from faithful family attenders of your church, about the wonderful Pastor and family. When Dwayne's health started failing I was given the blog address and I followed along daily as to his progress. His writings were so transparent and so genuine. His passion for Jesus was so real. I was often told, "He's the closest person I've ever met to an angel. He is so amazing." I believe that God sends angels to earth and he was one of them. I have been deeply touched and changed through his gift of writing. He was able to express his thoughts in a way that I have never heard. He shared so openly and honestly. He has changed my life forever.
Janet, Ashlynn and Tyler I will be praying for you. You are in my nearest thoughts and I life you up in prayer. I pray that friends and family will continue to surround you even as time goes by. May God wrap his loving arms around you and may you find comfort and strength in Jesus as you go through this most difficult time in one's life.
Janet, Ashlynn and Tyler,
I am praying for you all daily and pray for God's peace to cover you and that you would feel his presence. When I was in Korea i really missed Living hope and i missed your family. It was always so wonderful to hear Dwayne speak. He was one of the greatest examples to me of what a Christian should be like. He walked the talk. I will never forget his encouragment and his weekly hello's. I will always remember Dwaynes example. I look forward to seeing you all again. May God bless you and give you courage.
Shauna Jeffery
I can't leave this sight without putting in a comment as you've asked, Janet. Because Dwayne's writing has impacted my/our life. Even though I only know of you & Dwayne to know what you look like & to have heard Dwayne speak as another pastor here in Saskatoon, I have felt so close to you & your family through reading Dwayne's daily journal and have grown to love you through praying for you during your journey over the past couple of months. My heart breaks for you as a Mom in all this. Since we are also living with cancer right now, our family, with the help of Grandma & Grandpa Wilson, have kept up with Dwayne's journey & have prayed for him at different parts of every day depending on what he was going through at the time. Dwayne's honesty while recognizing God's sovereignty in his life reminds me of David's Psalms, and I believe that Dwayne's writings will touch many people's lives for years to come if made available. I was somewhat shocked to hear of Dwayne's passing mostly because of how quickly it came. We will continue to uphold you & your children in prayer in the coming days, weeks & months. Thank you for letting us into this very personal time of your lives, to walk with you a little further down the line & learn from your heaven-perspective through it all.
Melanie & Cam Wilson (from FGCC), and the greater Alex & Muriel Wilson family.
Dear Janet and family,
I have never met you or your family, however when I read Dwayne's obituary in the paper I was lead to log into the sight. I am touched by your faith and trust in Jesus Christ. I am thinking of you today, you are in my thoughts and prayers. May the Lord continue to shine His light on you in the difficult days ahead. This sight is truly a blessing.
SW in Saskatoon
With Hope
(1 Thess. 4:13-14, Heb. 6:9, 10:23)
Steven Curtis Chapman
This is not at all how
We thought it was supposed to be
We had so many plans for you
We had so many dreams
And now you've gone away
And left us with the memories of your smile
And nothing we can say
And nothing we can do
Can take away the pain
The pain of losing you, but ...
We can cry with hope
We can say goodbye with hope
'Cause we know our goodbye is not the end, oh no
And we can grieve with hope
'Cause we believe with hope
(There's a place by God's grace)
There's a place where we'll see your face again
We'll see your face again
And never have I known
Anything so hard to understand
And never have I questioned more
The wisdom of God's plan
But through the cloud of tears
I see the Father's smile and say well done
And I imagine you
Where you wanted most to be
Seeing all your dreams come true
'Cause now you're home
And now you're free, and ...
We have this hope as an anchor
'Cause we believe that everything
God promised us is true, so ...
We wait with hope
And we ache with hope
We hold on with hope
We let go with hope
Janet, Ashlynn, Tyler, Dan and Helen, Andrew, Shauna and kids and Karsten and Jackie.
We weep for your loss yet we look up with joy knowing that Dwayne is smiling down upon his beloved family and friends.
Your story has touched me and my family deeply and we lift you up in prayer.
We have been following the blog faithfully and have been driven to tears on many occasions. The tears we shed now are tears of joy because we know Dwayne has gone to a better place.
The gift of Dwayne's life and of your family's love for one another, as fully demonstrated in these blogs and with your affection for one another, will live forever in our hearts.
I attended the prayer vigil last night and was impressed by the stories of love, hope and especially joy. I got to see many different sides of a man that lived what he taught. Each speaker had wonderful stories to tell of the man and his family, who had made such an impact on their lives and for that I feel blessed.
I was particularly impressed with Dan for telling happy tales about Dwayne's youth. It allowed the gathered friends a chance to see a more youthful vision of a man that they loved. Thank you Dan.
What blew me away, however, was when Janet got up at the end of the prayer vigil and spoke of the love of her life. She pondered the question would she still marry Dwayne if she knew that he was going to die at an early age. Absolutely was her response. What a wonderful expression of love and fitting end to the prayer vigil.
We will continue to hold you and your family in our prayers.
God Bless You.
Sandy, Kathy, Chris, Stefi and Nicki
Janet,Ashlynn,Tyler
I am so sorry about your loss. Your dad was an amazing person that changed my life. Your family is so strong. I will remember the time when Ashlynn and I went biking with Dwayne and the dogs. He was a great pastor, and I enjoyed going to church with Ashlynn and listning to his sermons. If you ever need anything, please feel free to call.
Allie McKechnie, a friend of Ashlynn
Dear Janet
I was so sorry to hear of your loss. The couple of times that I chatted with Dwayne I came away encouraged. I often do not understand why God does things the way that He does, but I have learned that He is faithful and is able to comfort in ways that we can not as mere humans. Please know that if there is anything that I can do to be helpful to you or your kids, you only need to ask. I continue to uphold your family in prayer.
Christine Ruten
I attended Living Hope church for a number of months about a year ago. Pastor Dwayne is a man I know I will never forget, and even in the short time that I knew him, he touched my life. He radiated such an awesome joy and love for the Lord that it was truly inspiring. He will certainly be missed, and I just want you to know that you are in my prayers. Always remember how much love God has for you and how much he just wants to hold and comfort you in this time. Be blessed
Dear Janet,
We want to give you our love and prayers (as we have been over this whole time, and especially since last Tuesday). Please know that we are and will continue to pray for you and the kids. I can't imagine what you are going through, but God knows it all and it is He that will give you the strength to continue on.
As Rod and I talked about Dwayne and our time in Midale, I was reminded that at that time I felt that Rod had found a good friend - something he had not had through our many moves. I think a lot of people felt that way about Dwayne - that he was their good friend. I know Rod and Dwayne had good talks. We have the Bible dictionary he gave Rod (because he "had an extra"). Rod remembers time spent with him: riding on the pasture, Dwayne shooting his first deer with Rod, the Promise Keepers weekend after which Rod came out here to check out the land so Dwayne had to go back to Midale by himself. He especially remembers meeting Dwayne the first time at Breakforth. He remembers his huge grin and his enthusiastic "Rod"!! Rod told me, "I can't believe there was someone that happy to see me." Dwayne made people feel special and cared about, because he felt they were special and he cared about them. He was a very special person himself, and will hold a place in our thoughts and hearts.
I know that you have a loving church family surrounding you and I thank God for the support you have. We will continue to do our part here in prayer for you all. Please keep us on your email for future family letters. We do want to keep up with you.
Love in Christ,
Rod and Denise
Janet,Ashlynn,Tyler:
It breaks my heart to have heard of all the SADness that has come into all of your lives. First I heard recently that your mother passed away. We are so sorry! And then we heard about Dwayne being very ill.. Then we were away when we heard he passed away into God's hands. Please let me extend our sympathy with all that can been felt. We are so shocked, and feel such sorrow for all of you. Life hands us some challenges we do not expect, and seem so unfair. I try to put myself in your shoes and I hurt even at the thought of 2 such painful losses. I know that God is watching over you, as is Dwayne. I guess this is where your FAITH comes into play.. All that Dwayne has taught you, you now will have to practise everyday. I know you can do it, as I am sure that he prepared you from the moment you and the kids came into each others lives.
If there is anything we can do, or if you ever need to talk, please keep in touch. Take Care and God Bless you all! Sincerely Sad.. Sylvia, Tanis, Fred and Catelin
Janet,
I know that we only met for a brief time, but I want you to know that for the few hours that Dwayne and I spent talking, the influence has left a lasting effect on me. His enthusiasm for other people, and the passionate way that he lived his life shone through his every word. As I look forward into ministry, I'm dissapointed that Dwayne and I will never get a chance to work together, but I also recognize that God has something in store for what has happened to redeem such a hard moment for His glory.
Stephen
I randomly found this site today and my heart has been touched and broken at the same time. I sit here reading with tears in my eyes. I don't know your family, your church, or anything, but you have touched me. Thank you, and I am praying for comfort for you.
Anne Jackson
Shawnee, Kansas
Janet, Tyler & Ashlynn,
Let me begin with expressing how sad for you that Dwayne has had to leave this earth so early. But our God truly does have a sovereign plan. My wife and I will continue to lift you up in prayer. I didn't know about Dwayne's passing until just yesterday, and about this site until today. I wish I could have been at the funeral to celebrate his life with you. I'm truly sorry.
I first met Dwayne while pastoring in Estevan, and you folk were in Midale. As you know, we were part of the same ministerial. In what seemed a time all too short, I was just getting to really appreciate your husband (and dad) when we felt directed to move here to Saskatoon. To my surprise, I later ran into Dwayne, who, over lunch, said he was church planting as we were. And the church had HOPE in the name as ours does. I guess there are many people who need hope in our city.
My last conversation with Dwayne was at the pastor's gathering at Queen's House this spring. He proudly shared with me how Tyler had led to Christ a school friend. This deeply, deeply touched me - and actually challenged me to re-examine a lot my own motives in life and ministry. Tyler keep doing what your dad was so proud of - win people to Jesus. Ashlynn, would you keep smiling as big as your dad aways was. He's still smiling.
If there's ever anything we can do, or pray with you about, please don't hesitate to call. With great respect for Dwayne, and much prayer for you.
Pastor David Mickalishen
Saskatoon Centre for Hope
Dear Janet,
I don't really know what to say. My stap-dad died of cancer, and some of Dwaynes entries concerning the illness made me cry, it brought back some very vivid memories, and it also made me cry for your family, remembering those hard times. Since the first time I read Dwaynes blog (sometime in July I think) you have all been in my prayers. And Dwaynes journey with God has been inspirational.
You will continue to be in my prayers.
God bless
Dear, dear Janet and family,
My heart aches for you!! It sounds like Dwayne waked home quietly and he knew where he was going because the love he had for our Dear Lord!!
My Grandfather was a Baptist Minister and my Dad was an Anglican Minister so I know a lot about the "inside" of the teaching od Our Lord. Grampa White and my Dad are gone home too but the most pain comes from losing my Mum in a terrible accident Sept/18/03. She was much more than my Mum--she was my best friend--Spiritual Guider--she was full of more knowledge than any one esle I know. Losing her is painful enough but not knowing what happened to her in her last hours on earth is unbearable. I do know that God put out his Hand and she took it and went home peacefully.
I will be oraying for you all and thanking God for Dwayne's life because it sounds like he truly was chosen by God to do what he did on earth and all the souls he helped heal etc. God bless you all!!
Janet, Tyler & Ashlynn,
Just wanted to share some more stories about DH that haven't been posted... of Dogs & Deer, Chocolate-Covered Coffee Beans and Apple Pie and Mormons.
DOGS & DEER
DH took great delight in relating this story to me shortly after it happened.
He was running along his usual Meewasin trail route with Adrian & Tippy near dusk. Suddenly, they both took off into the bushes. He wasn't too worried, but after a little while decided he should call them back. Tippy came to him after a reasonable time, but Adrian was nowhere to be found, though he called and called.
They had passed through a spot near the river where the bushes were quite high and covered the area on both sides of the trail. Suddenly, a very disconcerted jogger ran up to DH, swearing and panting. "WERE THOSE YOUR DOGS?!?!" he yelled. DH replied in the affirmative and found that this poor fellow had been through quite an ordeal.
The dogs had flushed a deer out of the bushes - a fairly good sized buck with a nice set of antlers, in fact. This terrified animal had set off down the trail full-speed with the dogs hot on its heels. Unfortunately, the poor unsuspecting jogger had met up with the party, barreling headlong towards him as he jogged through the very spot where there were bushes on both sides and nowhere to escape! The poor fellow was still shaking as he poured out his tale to DH.
Though DH tried to be sympathetic, he certainly had a good laugh afterward and a great story to tell all his friends!
CHOCOLATE-COVERED COFFEE BEANS
DH once came into my office to offer me a "treat". They looked like glossettes - chocolate-covered raisons ... or something. However, he had made the mistake of previously informing me of the joys of chocolate-covered coffee beans, so I was highly suspicious and declined his generous offer. It turned out my suspicions were not unfounded and DH had to enjoy his beans all by himself... not that he seemed too disappointed.
Throughout our relationship, he continually tried to extol the joys of coffee and get me to partake with him, as he did many other non-coffee drinkers. However, I was never converted, and instead he learned to accept my particular tastes. When he'd bring in a treat he'd get a Tim Horton's or Starbucks coffee for himself and a lemonade for me!
He went through a microwaved popcorn phase at work too, where every few days he'd pop up a batch and always share some with me.
Though he never converted me to coffe, the last encouragement card he gave me stated on the front cover "Thanks a Latte" :)
APPLE PIE AND MORMONS
Early in the year I had a couple of young Mormon missionaries show up at my door. They came and chatted briefly, but since Mark wasn't home I invited them back for another time.
Meanwhile, I did a little research on the net and talked to DH about what I should do. Previously, Mark's strategy had been to immediately engage such visitors in deep theological debate, upon which they'd never return.
DH had a different idea. He called it his "apple-pie strategy". He related the story of how his younger sister Krystal had a similar visit and called him up to say "You have to come home and talk to these people - you're a Bible school student - you'll have answers."
Granted, DH was in Bible school, but didn't feel totally prepared. However, he read up on it and came ready to debate and discuss. His sister had baked an apple pie for the Mormons and told DH went he arrived, "Now, I don't want you to argue with them... just visit and get to know them and enjoy the apple pie." DH did get into a little bit of spiritual matters with the Mormons, but nothing too heavy. Well, when the visit was over Krystal said "You know... I think I ministered to them more with my apple pie than you did with your discussion."
Well... I thought this was a great idea. Since I was working that day and didn't have time to bake a pie, I cheated and bought one took it home and heated it up in the oven. When the Mormons showed up Mark and I offered them apple pie and ice cream. You should have seen their faces light up!
We had a pleasant visit, finding out all about them, where they were from, what they liked to do... just getting to know them as people. They did throw in the obligatory "So... have you read that part from the Book of Mormon we talked about?", but most of the evening was spent just becoming friends. Then, to top it off, we invited them back for supper the next week. They were thrilled!
So began our "Mormon Ministry". Every Tuesday for approximately 4 months they'd show up for supper and a visit. We had many good laughs over a variety of hearty meals, which they greatly appreciated. I'd learned from my research on the web that these young fellows didn't have a lot of support, were governed by an unbelievably strict set of rules and regulations, and were only allowed to phone their families (in the States) twice a year during their two-year stint as a missionary. They didn't have a lot of money, so the meals we provided were often the best they'd had all week. They often were transferred to another city with only 2 days notice. During the 4 months, one fellow stayed, while he had 3 new partners in that short time because of transfers.
They also appreciated the fellowship, as Mark tried to find common ground in our relationship with God instead of dwelling on the theological points of difference. We treated them as new friends instead of annoyances, as they so often were treated by others. At one point the one fellow said "Yours is the most Christian home we have ever been in."
They did eventually stopped coming - we're not sure whether it was because we weren't being "converted" or whether they'd begun to ask their elders too many questions... a ploy Mark often used when they'd bring up spiritual matters - "Well, what does your church say about...John 1:1 regarding the divinity of Christ?"
In any case, we were able to develop a relationship with these young men in which we gained respect for them as children of God, though misguided in their theology, who were passionate about their religion and living it out in obedience, moral standards and personal conduct that would put many Christians to shame. Conversely, we able to show the love of Christ to them in a tangible way through meals and getting to know them as valued people apart from their identity as Mormons.
We owe this experience to DH and his wisdom in passing on the "apple pie strategy". Who knows what seeds have been planted and what eternal consequences will result from the encounter we had with these young men? Perhaps DH is already seeing the big picture ... and smiling that HUGE grin..."see Moira, you ministered to them more with your apple pie than Mark ever would have with his arguments." :) Thanks DH!
Love,
Moira
Janet, Tyler & Ashlynn
Just heard your news from the write up in the Star Phoenix and are truly sorry for your loss. Both you and Dwayne touched our lives while you were students at Nipawin. Be assured our prayers are with you as you face the days and weeks ahead. Dwayne's smile and optomism is a memory both Pete & I have.
We are touched to hear how God has used you and Dwayne over the years. May God comfort you and uphold you in the days to come.
Pete & Brenda Thiessen
Dwayne always found the joy in things, everything. He had a lot of fun doing all the things in his job.
He also loved to share. He asked me the one time, “Why should I have all the fun?” To him, baptisms were fun to do and he wanted to share that enjoyment with others. First thing, of course, he checked his bible thoroughly and found no scriptures that spoke against anyone doing baptisms. I don’t even know if he checked with the conference or anyone else at that point because to him the bible was the ultimate and final authority. My son was to be baptized shortly and he asked me if I would like to do the actual baptism and of course I said Yes.
He also toyed with the idea of others doing weddings and funerals and according to his research there is legal provision for that as well. That was something that I found very appealing about Dwayne. His constant invitation was to share the joy that he had found whether it was coffee or baptizing or fellowship with Christ his call was always “Come, taste and see that the Lord is good.”
Mark W.
Dear Janet and Ashlynn and Tyler,
I am a stranger to you, but not a stranger to the effect cancer has on a family. I had it at age 40 with children aged 10, 11, and 13. I experienced many moments of fear and loneliness, as did Dwayne, and I know you will have too. Dwayne called himself "weak" for crying and feeling fear: I call that "courageous" and admire him for his willingness to be fully human. I will send love and healing thoughts to you all, and hope you will find comfort and healing in the love of your friends and family. Linda
Hi Janet,
Just wanted to tell you I have been praying for you, and am continuing to pray for you and your kids. Although I only met Dwayne and you a couple times, I have great respect for him in his fire for God. Jeff also said the same.
God gave me a vision of you a while back, shortly after Dwayne died. I saw you as hanging on to the roots of a very large tree, while tsunami-like waves rushed over you. But you were hanging on for dear life, literally, to the roots, which is God. Keep hanging on! love and prayers, Lenice Harms
Janet, Ashlynn & Tyler,
It has taken me a while before I've been able to sit here and share my thoughts of Dwayne. So many people have already shared the same sentiments I have, and I'm not sure that I will be contributing anything new.
But I did want you to know how very much I loved Dwayne. I miss him very much. I miss his smile and the way he would be able to let me know that he really cared. And that no matter what I said I did, he would not condemn nor judge me.
I'll admit, there were times he could drive me crazy when I would want the details, and he had none to give me. And he was okay with that. And he could talk me into things that I'm not sure anyone else could have. His confidence in me was greater than my confidence in me.
But one thing I will always remember is this last year (half a year), I would say, "I love my job!" and he would get this huge smile and say, "I love my job, too!" There aren't many people I know who say that so freely.
Janet, I love you. And I loved Dwayne. I still love Dwayne.
May God bless you.
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